Hellen Salisi’s background history.
Hellen is a 24year old lady, fifth born in a family of eight; four boys and four girls, though one girl passed on. Hellen is a single mother of two pretty girls- Harriet (5years)and Hazel (1 ½ years) with whom she stays with at her paternal home. Her parents are not employed though the father used to be a high school teacher but got fired due to excessive alcoholism. Helens’ mother has been suffering from stroke ever since her husband got fired. Life has not been any easier since the mother cannot work and the father only looks for money to buy alcohol and so Hellen and her siblings have to find a way of surviving and supporting their parents. Hellen has four elder siblings who engage in manual work and use the money for food. At least all her siblings got educated past primary school level even though they did not perform well. Only two of her siblings did not complete secondary school education; one-Hellen’s younger sister, who got pregnant when in form two and her younger brother who dropped out of school one year ago (2012)due to complete lack of school fees. This happened after Hellen stopped her work as an Untrained Teacher as a result of stigma by fellow staff and students she taught, and so she could not afford to pay her brothers school fees.
“My education was just by the grace of God…, I cleared my primary education in 2005 and was called in Butere girls (a provincial school), but could not make it because of lack of school fees.” Hellen explained. She was taken to a nearby local school where she schooled for one term and was sent back home for school fees. She was lucky to get an individual sponsor, a young man from a rich family. He sponsored her education for two years and then asked her to befriend him so that he could marry her after she completed school. The man threatened to stop sponsoring her education and so she gave in. Hellen realized she was expectant with the man’s child as she got to form three, but on informing the man, he denied it and disappeared. She went on schooling and was lucky to get another sponsor organization (SWAK)before the school administrators realized she was expectant. By the time it was realized she had already registered for her National examination for Secondary education( KCSE).She pleaded with the management until she was allowed to go deliver and come back to sit for her examination. She attained a C+ in that exam.
After school, Hellen had a responsibility to nurse her child and parents as well as younger siblings. She did different manual work for people mainly farming as she managed some food for her family and school fees for her younger siblings. Once in a while her elder brothers would send her some money to buy food for the family. She then met a man and they started dating. They had dated for a couple of months when the man asked her to organize so that they could get married.
“‘He had agreed marry me and accept to stay with my firstborn child. But when I realized that I was pregnant with his child before we got married, he denied the pregnancy and went on to marry another girl…’She explained as she tried to hide the tears that were starting to form in her eyes. I got so annoyed and stressed up that I ran away from home to some old woman’s home who was not even a relative because my father is very harsh. I delivered there and only came back home when the child was six months old. It is after this delivery that I realized I could not control my bladder. Urine passed uncontrollably and I had o start using rags to nap myself so as to avoid embarrassment.’” Hellen narrated to the counselor. This period during her second pregnancy made develop stomach ulcers since she was so stressed up with what was happening in her life.
We managed to identify ad reach Hellen through one of our organizations CHW, and took her for treatment courtesy of One By One our sponsors in the Fistula Treatment. Hellen is currently in our reintegration programme and she wishes to be empowered in hairdressing and computer packages. These, she says, will enable her work from home or even get employed in as an office assistant with computer knowledge and raise some money to care for her two daughters, parents and send her brother back to school. She still has hope that one day she will further her studies in Teaching or Mass Communication, but this she will do after her brother has completed high school.
“Am so grateful to WADADIA Organization. They have taken away my shame and are still helping me more. May God bless all those who are dedicated in reaching out to people like me through WADADIA.”
HELLEN SALISI’S REINTERGRATION
Hellen arrived in Mumias at about 10 am on 23rd Jan 2014 after her treat and was received by one of the organizations counselors at the main stage. They arrive at the office and she was taken through a brief therapy session that included measuring her self esteem at the moment. She was there after taken to her host family where she met her host father and mother, Mr. and Mrs. Gregory Wamwee . She was received warmly and the counselor led the session where the host family oriented Hellen to know the home well. They there after expressed their expectations on her and she was also allowed to do the same. The counselor also expressed the organizations expectations to both the host family and client.